Saturday, April 25, 2009

Pursuit Of Happiness........

You have a unit to measure electricity, a way to measure the weight of a sugar bowl,you have a method to scale your own height, a blunt ridiculous question am going to put forward to you now,do you know any method to measure or quantify happiness? Can you give me number or a figure and tell me this is how much am happy or this is the number of units which scale the level of satisfaction in my life.

The most happiest people in the world are the most social ones, the ones who have lots of mutual attention, those who call themselves as social butterflies, this is what correlation statistics on human happiness tells us.

And of course their is whole bunch of statements from the so called philosophers of our humanity , Happiness is a sate of mind, says one.Happiness is the ultimate goal of every human act says the other,I can achieve the deepest intensity of happiness through meditation & penance says another.
I personally hate philosophers because they most often so tilted to idealism and so general in their perception of humanity, it just that their ideas never fit every one in this world of diversification.
so common people like you and me ,keep asking ourselves one question again and again, how happy we are in our life, is it a journey of life?? or is it an impulsive act or incident??, which happens to deliver us this adrenalin rush.Do we have enough of this units of happiness to feed our appetite for satisfaction and fulfillment.

There are three kinds of life each person lives in their life,we try make a cut though a few personalities who are biased exclusively toward one of this three kind of life,

The pleasant life : The royals, kings, pro-creations of the ultra rich come under the scanner here, this people where born with a silver spoon in their mouth.Their inherited blood is what gives them the ominous things in life.There is never a pleasure in the world they haven't experienced.Ignorance,arrogance, pride are part of the business. Never dare to call any of their act sadistic because everything is legal here.Love, romance,affairs,betrayal are all dice of the game.It might take several life time to spend all their assets unless they bet it all on a single game of poker.

So, a very simple question ,are this people the happiest and ultimately the most satisfied people in the world? you can hold your answer for sometime.

The focused life: Lint grew up as paper boy.He had a very tough life. He was smart ,intelligent and hardworking, qualities that made him a millionaire at the age of 25,he was running a stock trade business.He was also a world champion in the game of chess.But their is a dark side to it, he had a pathetic love life, the girls he approached called him boring.There were numerous break up in his life and he remained single most part of it.

So, again another simple question putting it in a different way, do you think Lint was not happy and satisfied person in his life? hold on with your answer,

The fulfillment life: A person who needs no introduction "Mother Teresa" .She left the comforting life of a Balkan state in Europe to work for the down trodden in the slums of Kolkata.She had no substantial assets ,faced numerous humiliations and dealing with pain was just another day at the office for her,she never had a love life ,I meant it in a romantic sense.There was none of her own blood. She was all alone in the middle of the hot subcontinent,with a bunch of missionaries.

So, the same simple question again in a different wording, so you think Mother Teresa was doing this ,just for the sake of doing service to humanity and her days in almost hell were without fulfillment? Am going to get you the answers shortly.

Before that,May be you should have look at the equation derived by the team of psychologist headed by Dr.Meleman,

Complete Happiness = The Pleasant Life + The Focused life + The Fulfillment Life
(Ultimately Total

But hold on, this equation isn't as simple as it sounds, its nonlinear,

The contribution of each of this parameter to the so called complete happiness is scaled and vary in their contribution

In this equation,

Pleasant life <<< Focused life < Fulfillment life

The above line just accentuates the fact that,

The contribution of pleasant life to complete satisfaction is quite negligible compared to the focused and the fulfillment life,

Now lets try getting back to the branches I was talking about earlier,

Mother Teresa, nor she had any assets in her name,and her mission of annihilating the pain of the suffering ,which always would be a infinite string which never ended, still she was more happier and satisfied person than most of us ,the torrents of happiness which she received in serving the down trodden helped her feed her appetite of her satisfaction completely and she never felt craving for anything else to make her more happy.

Lint had a pathetic love life, never popular among girls, but he was a workaholic,every time when he entered his stock market the respect he commanded from his fellow men, gave him the needed adrenalin rush.When he played the game of chess, he was the best, his concentration so focused when he starts his work ,it was almost like time used to freeze for him. This radiant shimmering were just enough to fill his cans of satisfaction overwhelmingly.

The inherited filthy rich had everything,could do everything but their carving for more never stops, they could not define how much is too much, because their happiness bowl was always leaking,no amount of it,could satisfy those people.

Guess this explains the logic behind the scaling of the equation.So the ultimate deprivation of essence of happiness from a pleasant life is felt only if a person wholly and fully lives his focused and fulfillment life.Otherwise no amount of pleasant life could satisfy our mammoth requirement of happiness.

May be some of this Ultra Rich do realize this inevitable equation in their lives, so the next time when you see Angelina Jolie giving a million dollar donation or Madonna adopting a black African kid, we should think twice before calling it as a celebrity gimmick, it does whole lot more good to them, it brings them the elixir of life " Happiness".

Craving for the "H" word just like you,


Niranjan said...

Happiness is a journey not a destination!

Anusha said...

It was truly great Karthick!!! Most of time people go in search of happiness some where else. Many don't realize they already have a reason to be happy... Keep going with ur grt work!!!

deepika said...

That was splendid...i was flabbergasted after reading ur blog u have stolen my words..and yes
"Complete Happiness = The Pleasant Life + The Focused life + The Fulfillment Life"

this indeed is true..way to go mate!!!!!!!

Karthick said...

@ Niranjan: May be u can plan the journey only if know what ur destination is....

@ Anusha : Whatever U Say Sweetheart..

@ Deepika : Well, I intentionally dint mean to flabbergast U, but thank you so much,hope to flabbergast u more.

ramya said...

Happiness = Pleasant Life + Focussed Life + Fulfillment life + SUCCESSFUL one
You might think that fulfillment and successful are one and the same. But, people actually sometimes are happy and content even with less success and lead a PLEASANT life with FOCUS. But somewhere down the line, there is always a guilt present in them about the success. So for me personally, success also does matter in the equation.

Nevertheless, I am on the fence. In India, if a poor man gets meal for 2 times, he is content. And that means he is happy with his life. Being rich and focussed is not always important for being happy. There is something called "Simple Pleasures of Life". Be with small kids, you will understand how to be happy without no reason. God should have made the world such that this quality of childhood should sustain in us always. Then surely there wont be many griefs in our lives. :-)

Karthick said...

@Ramya :To tell u the truth honestly,I was completely taken aback by ur comment,u really pulverized the subject.

Definitely success is a big part of happiness cant agree with u better.

But the reason i dint include success as part of the equation is because, success is an integral part of every parameter in the equation.

If its a focused life of a daily laborer,success just means doing his work to the best of his ability , not being rich doesn't mean he is not successful.And at the same time success in his fulfillment life doesn't mean he needs to make a donation or charity,the very reason the best he does to take care of his family is what success for him in his fulfillment life.And the simplest of every day pleasure like spending the little he has to entertain himself is what contributes to the success of his pleasant life.
So the quantity or quality of the success can never be generalized.

I hope just as u wish we could remain a children forever in life experiencing happiness for no substantial reason at all,but the reality sounds otherwise.

So to have that sustained complete happiness in our lives,we not only need to live three kinds of life but also need to have "success" injected into each of this three kinda life.

Success is such an abstract element in the equation and u just did a fantastic job in making it explicit.

I just could not contain myself on showering appreciation on ur thought process.I am awed.
Your thoughts are far ahead of ur age.Kudos!!!


But friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life; and thanks to a benevolent arrangement of things, the greater part of life is sunshine.Nice Comment!

Reshma prathaban said...

Hmm...Well karthick..Instead of craving for vitamin 'H' u can always carve the world of 'H' for yourself....
Happiness lies in one's perspective of looking at life...A rag picker is content with the one sqr meal he gets n say 50 bucks he earns a day...but will tat make u n me happy??
When we stop expecting too much in life we ll be rich in the 'H' factor...:) I wouldn't say we shdn't expect in life...but over expectation cud prove to be fatal..

Shruti Mukundan said...

seems like u have devoted quality 'time n thoughts' over d post.. gud one buddy n the comments made it al d more interesting.. but i just didnt understand one thing.. y is there a need to quantify happiness... like when i say am happy n u say u r happy, there isnt a question of who is happier... the point is we r both happy... more over satisfaction is something that has nothing to do with happiness.

say like when i got his 'unlimited internet' thing installed, i was very happy but since its so slow n gets disconnected is many times, am not satisfied but then am still happy :) u c.. happiness is not something which needs a lot of thought process.. u dont need to ask urself 'y u r happy'.. coz when u r happy, u r just happy. yeah but when u r craving for satisfaction, then its a different thing altogether.

so buddy!! stay happy n keep smiling... thats d way it should b.

Shruti Mukundan said...

ohh btw, i typed d url this time ;)

Karthick said...

@Reshma : Well exactly, happiness is certainly defined by the expectations, but the fact,no matter how happy u feel in life there is always missing in life, until u feel u deserve it and until u share it with others.That's was the fact i was trying to bring out in this post,we don't have to rich like Madonna to feel happy the same way, but yeah u must busy in life like her and open minded in charity like her.

Karthick said...

@Shruti Mukundan : Well i have been been chewing this thought in my mind for the past two months, it just that i found the right mood to express myself.

The main purpose of the post what not to quantify happiness but to bring of the parameters completes the word happiness and different grades that take to toward the so called elusive " complete happiness",. No equation and no theory is fool proof and general,unless time tested, so mine perception need not always prove to be idealistic
okay,u said u felt happy wen u got ur unlimited connection, but than dint u feel more happy now,that u can share it with brother better now,without any hiss that u might exceed ur limit,u really can give him free hand right ,dint that point make u more happier, okay again u still felt happy even though it frequently gets disconnected and its slow, what if it had the same lightening speed and ur connection was far more smooth, don u think u could have felt lot lot more happier,u would not have had the thought to go back to ur previous plans.And that as ur connection is unlimited don't u think it makes hell lot more comfortable for u to type directly on the compose page than tying it on a word or notepad.
And last but not the least doesn't it give u more time to blog,download,make more friends,connect with them better.

So at every instance ur happiness quotient keeps each factor adds to happiness, it not always the same at every stage, its just that u lower ur expectations to feel happy.

The relationship between happiness and satisfaction is that happiness is an appetite for satisfaction,being happy need not translate in being satisfied, but being satisfied always implies completeness in ur happiness.

Well yeah i noticed that, u typed the url directly on the address bar, atlast :).

Niranjan said...

Niranjan said...
Happiness is a journey not a destination!

Karthick said...
May be u can plan the journey only if know what ur destination is....

Niranjan says...
A true traveler does not know his destination !

Karthick said...

@ niranjan : Tatz good inference,i will agree with tat.But not every one tends to be true .

Reshma prathaban said...

Sounds tough but it is really easy to be happy...You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life...Limit your desire to a level....Dream high but not for the impossible...Limit your dream to what is possible at that particular moment...Mind is the fastest thing on earth since it keeps wavering every moment... one second u think about college the very next moment you dream about BMW...That is like a typical human...!!! We never realise we are only responsible for gaining 'H' factor...The day we realise that we will have bundles of 'H' to share with all..

Fallen Angel said...

Intense amount of analysation , must say. As you yourself stated no idealistic statement leads us to the doors of happiness.

" In this world of diversification ", everybody have their own criterion and parameters of being happy .

well written :-)

cheers !

Ramya Suriyamoorthy said...

If u are happy just enjoy those happy moments. Dont look into its measure. Why should u waste happy moments trying to quantify it. I know u think a lot but dont do it always.

Creative Space said...

Somehow i felt that i needed this today..thanks karthik:)